Escort Etiquette Before a First Booking

The short answer

Good escort etiquette simply means being polite on the phone, arriving clean and on time, staying reasonably sober, and respecting her boundaries from start to finish. That is genuinely most of it. There is no secret code, and you are not going to be judged for being new to this. Treat her as you would like to be treated, and you will already be ahead of most people.

Here are the details worth knowing before a first booking, in the order that they will come up.

On the phone and talking about money

Keep the call short and friendly. Say which lady you would like to see and when, and we will check she is free and confirm the price. Our guide on how to book an escort takes you through it. Please do not use the call to ask for explicit detail or to negotiate what might happen. The rate covers her time and companionship, and these are matters she decides for herself. Asking for particular promises will not get you anywhere.

Do ask practical questions, like how payment works, how to find the place or what happens if you need to change your plans. Those are sensible questions, and we are happy to answer them.

Find out how payment works when you call, and have it sorted as agreed. The usual approach is to deal with payment at the beginning, so that nobody has to think about it again. Do not haggle. The rates are listed on each profile for you to consider beforehand, and bargaining once you have met is disrespectful. If something does not suit you, you can always raise it with us rather than putting her on the spot.

Getting ready: hygiene, timing and alcohol

This is the one that matters most, and it is entirely within your control. Have a shower just before you meet. Brush your teeth, wear clean clothes and trim your nails. Go easy on strong aftershave, and avoid garlicky food and heavy smoking shortly beforehand.

If she is coming to you, take a few minutes to tidy up. Clean towels, a clear space to sit and a clean bathroom show that you have thought about her comfort. Put your valuables and any paperwork away somewhere private, too, so nobody needs to think about them.

Be on time, neither very early nor late. Arriving well before the arranged time can be just as awkward as being late, as she may still be getting ready or finishing other plans. If you are visiting her, allow for travel delays, and let us know if you are running behind. Being late may cut into the time you have booked.

If you have to cancel or change plans, tell us as soon as you possibly can. Her time has been set aside for you, and she may have turned down other plans. A simple message or call early on is all it takes, and it is just basic courtesy. Do ask about what happens with changes when you book.

A drink to settle your nerves is one thing, but being drunk is another. It tends to make for a poor time, and it can make you seem unpredictable, which can be worrying for someone meeting you for the first time. Illegal drugs have no place in a booking, and please do not ask a lady to bring or take any. A lady can decide to leave if she feels unsafe, and that would be entirely reasonable.

Boundaries and consent

Each lady decides what she is comfortable with, and she can say no at any time, including about things she might have been happy with before. If she says no, or seems hesitant, stop and move on without any fuss or pressure. Never try to persuade, bargain or sulk. Paying for her time does not buy anything beyond that, and it never overrides her right to say no. Consent must be freely given, and that is the law as well as good manners.

It is fine to ask her, at the right moment and in a friendly way, what she would be comfortable with. If you have a health question, or if condoms or sexual health come up, take the sensible approach and follow NHS advice. Use protection, and get tested regularly at your local sexual health clinic.

Privacy and personal questions

Do not ask for her real name, address or personal details, and do not try to contact her outside of the agency. Never take photos or videos without her clear agreement, and do not record anything in secret. You probably value your own privacy, so extend the same courtesy to her.

Talk about ordinary things, such as your day, your travels, what you enjoy doing. Asking something like, what brought you to this work, can be intrusive. Let her lead when it comes to any questions about her life. Do not try to rescue her or lecture her either, as a warm and easy conversation is much better for everyone.

At the end

When the time is up, finish up gracefully. Do not push for extra time for free, as she may have other plans to get to. If you would like more time, ask politely before the end, and bear in mind that she may not be able to stay. A simple thank you goes a long way. If you enjoyed yourself and would like to see her again, tell us when you next call. And if you are still curious about the terms used on the site, our escort terms guide has you covered.