Tantric massage

What tantric massage is

Tantric massage is a slow, whole body massage that uses breath, touch and awareness, loosely inspired by the Indian spiritual tradition of Tantra. Its aim is to help you relax deeply and to notice how your body feels, without any hurry to get anywhere. In the version offered in London, it is sensual, but many people find that its slowness is what stays with them.

It helps to separate the massage from the original tradition. Tantra is a complex family of Hindu and Buddhist practices that go back well over a thousand years, and much of it has little to do with sex. What is offered as tantric massage today is mostly a modern Western development, which took shape in the second half of the twentieth century. There is nothing wrong with that, as long as nobody pretends otherwise.

What usually happens

Most sessions begin slowly. There may be some conversation about how you are feeling and what you would like, followed by shared breathing to help you settle. The massage itself uses warm oil and long, flowing strokes across the whole body, and it often avoids intimate areas until later on, if at all. The room usually matters a lot, with low lighting, soft music and enough warmth that you do not feel chilly.

It takes time. An hour is about the minimum if you would like the full effect, and many people prefer ninety minutes or longer. You may find you feel sleepy, emotional or oddly energised afterwards. Those are common reactions, so try to leave a little quiet time in your schedule afterwards and avoid rushing straight into a meeting.

What it can and cannot do

Many people find tantric massage deeply relaxing, and relaxation has real value. Some say it helps them to feel more at ease with their body, or more connected to their partner. But you should be cautious about grander claims. It is not a proven treatment for erectile difficulties, premature ejaculation, anxiety or trauma, and anyone who tells you otherwise is overstating things.

If you are dealing with one of these, your GP is the right first step, and they may refer you to a psychosexual therapist. If you have a heart condition, recent surgery or other medical concerns, check with your doctor before having any kind of massage, and always mention health issues to the person you are with.

Choosing someone thoughtful

Anyone can write tantric on a profile, so read further. Look for ladies who list tantric massage or tantra, and pay attention to how they describe it. Someone who talks about pace, breath and atmosphere has probably given it some thought. You will find it useful to compare it with the alternatives in our guide to erotic massage in London.

It is fine to ask, when you meet, how she likes to work and how she came to enjoy it. Most people who care about this are happy to talk about it. Listen as much as you speak, and let her lead if she prefers. A short explanation of what she does will tell you a lot.

Boundaries and consent

Good tantric practice has clear boundaries. Talk beforehand about what touch is welcome and what is not, and agree that either of you can stop or change course at any moment. It is a practice that relies on feeling safe. If you feel uncomfortable, say so. If she says no to anything, accept it at once.

An escort's rate pays for her time and companionship. A tantric session does not promise a sexual outcome, and it should never be approached as if it did. Each lady decides what she is comfortable with and can say no at any time. Should you both choose to take things further, condoms and safer sex still apply, and remember that massage oil can weaken latex, so wash it off first.

How to arrange one

Allow plenty of time, and pick a place where you will not be disturbed. A warm room and a shower are the essentials if she is coming to you. Shower beforehand, trim your nails, avoid heavy meals, and go easy on alcohol, since it blunts exactly what you have come to enjoy.

Then call us with her name and a time. We check she is free, confirm the price and arrange the rest. Rates start from £200 for incalls and £200 for outcalls, and each profile lists that lady's own rates and areas. If you would like to read about a closely related style, see our guide to lingam massage.