A list of kinks

The kinks people mention most

A kink is any sexual interest outside the conventional, and the most common ones include bondage, role play, spanking, foot play and power exchange. None of them is unusual. Surveys regularly suggest that a large share of adults have at least fantasised about something on this list, so if you recognise yourself here, you are in good company.

Here is a short list in plain words. Bondage means being restrained, or restraining a partner. Domination and submission means one person leads and the other agrees to follow. Spanking is impact on the buttocks, usually by hand. Role play means taking on an agreed character. Foot worship is a focus on feet. Sensory play uses blindfolds, feathers or changes of temperature. Voyeurism and exhibitionism are about watching or being watched, and they only belong between people who have all agreed, in private. Latex and leather are about the look and feel of a material. Watersports is play involving urination.

Kink or fetish?

The two words often get swapped, but there is a difference. A kink is something you enjoy and could happily take or leave. A fetish is usually a stronger pull towards one specific thing. Our guide to what a fetish means explains where the line falls, and our BDSM guide covers the best known group of kinks.

Consent comes first

Every kink rests on the same foundation, which is that all the adults involved have freely agreed, know what they are agreeing to, and can change their mind at any point. Talk about limits beforehand, agree a safe word for anything intense, and stop straight away if someone asks.

An escort's rate pays for her time and companionship, and a kink is never part of the deal. Each lady decides what she is comfortable with. Her profile lists what she enjoys, so that is the best place to start, and you can browse by interest on our services page. If something is not mentioned, it is safest to assume she would rather not, and to ask politely when you meet rather than press. If she says no, the right response is a smile and a change of subject.