Rimming meaning on a profile

What rimming means

Rimming means oral stimulation of the anus. The clinical name is anilingus, and you may also see it written as analingus. It is more common than you might imagine, and it is also one of those things people often feel too shy to ask about, which is why a plain definition is useful.

Some older sites use other slang for the same thing, so there is no hidden difference to worry about.

Giving and receiving

On a profile, the important detail is direction. A lady might list rimming giving, which means she is open to doing it, or rimming receiving, which means she is open to having it done. Those are two very different things, and a lady who lists one may have no interest in the other.

So read carefully before assuming anything. As with every term on a profile, these describe what a lady enjoys rather than something you have paid for. The rate covers her time and companionship. Each lady decides what she is comfortable with and can say no at any time, and many ladies will not list either one.

Hygiene is not optional

This is a case where preparation is a matter of respect and health. Take a thorough shower shortly before you meet, and wash carefully with warm water and mild soap. Harsh or perfumed products can cause irritation. If a lady offers you the chance to shower when you arrive, take it gladly and do not be offended, because it is a courtesy that keeps both of you comfortable.

The health risks

Because this involves mouth to anus contact, it carries particular risks that are different from many other activities. Gut infections such as shigella and giardia, along with hepatitis A, can be passed on this way, and threadworms are also possible. Other sexually transmitted infections, including gonorrhoea, herpes and syphilis, can pass too.

A dental dam, which is a thin square of latex or polyurethane, reduces the risk. Vaccines exist for hepatitis A and hepatitis B, so it is worth asking your GP or an NHS sexual health service whether they are right for you. If you develop diarrhoea, stomach cramps or sores after sexual contact, seek medical advice and say what you have been doing. They will not judge. Regular testing is free and confidential. Do not go ahead if either of you is unwell, particularly with a stomach bug.

Consent and limits

Many people have strong feelings about this one, in both directions. So it needs a clear yes, in advance, from the person doing it and from the person receiving it. It should never just be tried on the spur of the moment. If someone flinches or moves away, stop and ask. A hint counts as an answer.

You have limits as well. If a lady suggests something you are not comfortable with, you are free to decline, and there is no shame in that.

How to raise it politely

You do not need to mention this when you call us. Just give us her name and a time, and we check she is free, confirm the price and arrange the rest.

In person, pick a relaxed moment. Something like, I noticed rimming on your profile, would that be something you would enjoy, is plenty. For other terms you may see, read our A to Z of escort terms.